What would you be if you weren't what you are? Huh?
Allow me to explain. I was thinking today of what I would be doing if I weren't a full time mom to three awesome kids. Rob and I were at a Christmas party last night with his co-workers and he told them that I work [as a personal chef] about three hours a week. I'd like to think that I actually work more than three hours a week in general, but some weeks are different than others. Anyway, I started thinking about who I would be if my situation were different. Of course, this raises the question of nature vs nurture, but for this post, I'll try to keep it simple.
My major in college was writing. I thought I'd like to be a proofreader or editor. Obviously, my plans were changed when we were blessed with Josh. It was more important for Rob to graduate with a degree - his major was athletic training. His plans were changed as well, as athletic training certainly isn't conducive to raising a family.
So, I became a mother and he became an investment advisor.
Over the years, my love for food developed. Eating it, preparing it, serving it to others - I love food. I started cooking when we were in college, as a way to impress Rob, I admit. After a while, though, I realized it was something that I could do well and that I loved it. I also still loved writing, but didn't really have the opportunity to pursue it. I probably could have researched ways to use my love of writing, but the three kids kept me pretty busy.
Now that I have some time on my hands [with the kids in school], I have been able to blog more and to cook more - and I am loving every second of it!
If I could describe my dream job it would include: travel, food, and writing. Would that make me a travel blogger? I certainly don't have the personality to be Anthony Bourdain or Andrew Zimmern (plus, I would never eat half of the stuff that he eats) - but I would love traveling, eating, and writing about it.
I also love to cut hair. That might sound kind of random, but I think cutting hair is so fun. I usually cut my own hair, always cut my Dad's hair, and occasionally will cut the kids hair. I couldn't stand on my feet all day, though, and try to please the public - I just don't have the personality for that, or the stamina. I'm a wimp. I like downtime. I love to be by myself - and I need to prop up my feet, read a book, and "veg" occasionally.
But, back to the original question: Who would I be if I wasn't a full-time mother? The obvious answer to the question is - I wouldn't be me. I certainly have plenty of time to pursue my dreams - I'm only 33, after all. But, I know without a shadow of a doubt that my life has been pre-ordained - and that I am where I'm supposed to be. In the future, I hope that I have the chance to travel with Rob (and I'd love to write about it, even if I don't get paid for it). I hope that I can continue to pursue my love of food.
So, what would you be if you weren't you? Where would your gifts lead you? What do you dream of doing someday? What do you love?